Hi soniadevereux, sorry for the late response, your post really helps, the horse i lost was also called Tia what a coinsidence! anyway I have really improved since loosing my horse and i now have a new horse called Belle i'm finding it okay but stil don't quite have that bond. I keep comparing her ways to Tia's which isn't any good think i just need to move forward, thanks for the help :) x

 Hello,

I know this happened a while ago and it's probably not something you want to talk about. You commented on my post after i lost my mare back in december. I just wondered how you were getting on and if you had found another horse and could bond with them. I bought another horse a few weeks after i lost Rabbit and i have to say it's been quite a struggle to move on from it and create a bond with Penny. It's very difficult when people tell you how to deal with it as she wasn't their horse but yours and even though it was a while ago it's very difficult to get over it. Rab was definately my dream horse and it's very difficult to come to terms with the fact that she's been taken away from me. Just thought i'd ask how you were finding it as it's very difficult finding someone where the same thing has happened to them and wondering how they were coping.

Thanks char x

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Take your time and get another horse when it "feels right!" dont rush into anything and take a bit of time to get things straight. You do get that  bond back but it will be slightly different to the one had had first. Try to remember the good times and the fun times and of course the times she drove you nuts!! You love for your mare will always be with you and you will always remember her. I lost my mare Tia about 4 years ago, i had another horse at the time but we didnt bond, he got very lame and PTS, i got another mare and iwas scared to get too attached because i felt like i was betraying Tia's memory, all i was doing was trying not to be hurt like that again. I still have Roobee, and we do have a good bond. I think most of us on this forum has lost a special horse along the way, but you have to do what is right for YOU!. Take care. xxx