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future_vet

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future_vet says:

I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

Okay, so when I first started riding about 7 years ago, i had no idea what was instore. When I first sat in the saddle, a whole new world oppened up to me. And i hope never to leave it...

I had a rocky start, I learnt to ride on ex race horses, that threw me off every lesson, and as you can imagine, as a young girl, my confidence was shattered. So, after 4 years of hard, but scary work, I developed a good seat, and good balance, but my problem was my confidence. Then we moved and I started at a new stables. Here, the horses are placid. the people are friendly, my instucter is cheery, and slowly an steadily I regained my confidence in all aspects of the sport. But now I had another problem..my instructer. She doesn't push me. I was blind to it, and loved my lessons. But recently, i went on a riding course, and that is where i discovered, I have potential. I wasn't just doing circles in trot evey lesson with an instructer that didn't care. I was galloping in stubble fields and jumping over 3 " 3. I though things would change now I knew i am actually a compitant rider.

I got back a week ago, and things have got worse. My riding instructer is in a mood with me for going, i am stuch jumping 1 foot cross poles again while my instructer talks to her friends. I am SO much better than this, and believe i can go far...but I have no idea what to do, there arn't any other stables for me to go to,

What do you think i should do?

~Don't follow your dreams, catch them~

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kirstyndshaky

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Re: I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

omg, thats terrible!!not the end of the world tho!sometimes u outgrow instructors, they can be exactly what u need at the time, but a few months later they are holding u back, its happened to every1!!she shouldnt be upset with u 4 going, thats daft, its helping u improve!!do u have any horsey friends with their own?if so most ppl will be fairly open to the idea of you having a lesson, i know if someone asked me i would be happy (depending on who it was!) see if you could have a freelance lesson on their horse, does the horse good 2 get other ppl riding them and gives u loads of experience, and freelance instructors are there just 4 u, so your in control!

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future_vet

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future_vet says:

Re: I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

thank you   that really helps, I do have friends with horses, but Its finding the time, you know i have exams and things, I just hate it because riding it my passion, and the riding course was a dream come true. It may not seem like alot, but it was. And now, i feel like all my potential is going to waste, I hope you understand what I mean

~Don't follow your dreams, catch them~

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ptarmigan1

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ptarmigan1 says:

Re: I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

Do have your own horse? If so, get another instructor! Or, if not, try loaning a pony, then you dont HAVE to have lessons, you can build yourself around your confidence.

Best of luck

B and T x

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x-pony-sweetie-x

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Re: I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

You need to find a new instructor, or ride someone elses horse or pony, if you can't buy your own horse. You are doing what I do in my lessons, but I have been riding for two years, so it's ok with me.

Glory <3 PONY WEEK 2009!!!

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kirstyndshaky

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Re: I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

its the summer!!!who worries about exams in the summer!!!ive just managed 2 do alevels, organise a prom, and a fashion show, and a disco 4 the kids, and my 18th (biggest bash ever!!) and have weekly lessons on my horse, and do diy livery on a weekend, and b4 u ask i got in2 my 1st choice of uni so although my work probably suffered, the uni was more bothered about all the other stuff i did!!!

 

a lesson every other week isnt going 2 affect your results that much!(sorry, im a terrible influence, but its all about balance!!)

 

and b4 ppl start saying my alevels werent "proper" alevels, it was biology, chemistry and maths!!!

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Smithy14

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Smithy14 says:

Re: I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

Also a riding lesson a week while you are doing exams will help you wind down and have a break!! Is she the only instructor at them stables??

Never give up, you can overcome anything if you keep at it!

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future_vet

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future_vet says:

Re: I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

yh she is, I know its the summer, but i want to be a vet, so I want to get the best marks possible. I do other things as well, not just horse riding

~Don't follow your dreams, catch them~

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Johanna28

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Johanna28 says:

Re: I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

I agree with Kirsty, it's all about balance.

I'm a teacher and I always advise my pupils to take a study break, do something outdoors to refresh and refuel. Riding is the perfect thing because you can't think about exams whilst you're flying over jumps; I'm usually much too concerned with staying in the saddle!

Allow yourself a break. I'm sure you deserve it!

CONI x x

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melxvengeance

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Re: I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

if you have your own horse and you're wanting to do something like showjumping or cross country (you mentioned jumping 3"3 so i presumed you want to focus your riding abilities on there) then it's a really good idea to hire a private showjumping tutor.

i've seen adverts in my local riding store for private riding instructors that can help focus you on what you want to do. even if you don't have your own horse, maybe loan one and keep it at your place, or a new livery yard?

it's worth a try!

Norwegian Fjords - the golden horses with the golden hearts. Minty, Loki, Teiko, Willow, Cherry & Charlie - my lovely ponies :)

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future_vet

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Re: I just accoplished my dream...for nothing

I have some good news, i am looking for horses to buy. My parents finally agreed. Its not for certain, but its a start!  If it goes to plan, I'll have a lesson every now and again to make sure I'm not developing any bad habits, and i'll compete thanks for all your support!

~Don't follow your dreams, catch them~

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