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cobon

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cobon says:

Excuses!!

Hi,

I have a slight dilema!! A member of my family has been helping me exercise my horse. Only by taking him in the school twice a week.  She used to have her own horse many years ago, but lost him due to a horrendous traffic accident.  She has been having lessons for the past 18 months and offered to help me school my 4yo.  I declined the offer, but some how 4wks ago she turned up at ours in her riding gear and i offered her to have a go on him.  Since then, she has been exercising him.

My Mum and I have put so much time and effort into him and when i first brought him a year ago it was an immense battle to even get an active walk out him!! He really has come on very well in the past 12 months

She came and rode him yesterdy and i left her to it. I let her into the school shut the gate, walked across my yard and out of the other gate, which took me all of 30 seconds and within that time she was trotting him round and round. In the space of 5 minutes she had trotted him for 4 1/2 minutes.  Now most people would know that we all need to warm up before we do any form of exercise, but i was gobsmacked!!  In the half hour she was on him, it was mainly trot!!  He gets confused on cantering in the school, so for now Mum and I have been working on getting him to stretch, being active, bending correctly and general transitions.  Mum and I have spoken and have said the work that more so my Mum has put into him, is slowly going out the window!! 

My dilema is, how can i tell her in a nice way that i don't want her to ride him anymore?  She is a lovely lady and i desperately don't want to hurt her feelings, but even more so, i am not allowing our hard work to go out the window!!

Thanks for your help xx

 

I love my Cob xx

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soniadevereux

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Re: Excuses!!

She probably thinks she is doing you a favour and doesnt realise what she is doing is upsetting you. Horsemanship has changed a lot in recent years and more thought is for the horse than it used to be. ( I am a "mature" horse person and seen the difference in attitude). Can you ask her to watch what you do and ask her to do the same as he does need to have repition and understand what is needed. More work and muscle building can be done in walk with different exercises rather than trotting around.. If she refuses, as her kindly to she if she can find another horse to exercise as you need to "correct" the work she has done to your horse. x

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cobon

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cobon says:

Excuses

Mum and I have both said and showed her what he needs, but she rides very long and her RI is a dressage rider (hence her riding long) and she is doing more advanced things on horses that know their job. Obviously at 4yrs old, mine doesn't. But is getting there!!  Unfortunately, she is one of these ladies that thinks she is better than she actually is.  Im a competant novice, but know how to get my horse going and I have a very experienced Mum with 25 plus yrs of knowledge. But, i hold my hands up and say that im not a fantastic rider by any means. Along with my Mum who is a really good rider, but she still thinks she is crap!! lol xx

I would like her to still ride him, but it's awful watching her on him.  She desperately wants to canter and as she can't, she just trots round and round and round and round!! And is constantly kicking him, even though he is active. He is a Cob, so not overly forward, but honestly, if you had seen him when i first had him, you would have cried as i did!! She also never lets him have his head to stretch his back out! xx

I love my Cob xx

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ieupad

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ieupad says:

Re: Excuses!!

 This is a tough one all right - I don't think you can have it both ways, I think you are going to have to let her ride her like she does or not at all because it doesnt sound like she is taking on board what you are saying to her. Can she prehaps have her riding lesson on your horse? 

 

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nix123

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nix123 says:

Re: Excuses!!

 I would use a watered down version if the truth, something like my mum has put so much work into him and shes noticed he's getting a bit confused atm so think it would be best if he had just one person to learn from just untill he's learnt the basics/ a bit more so it looks like we'll have to leave off with the riding for a bit.  Its going to be hard for me but my mum said that with you being such an advanced/experienced rider you would understand more and maybe could explain it to me better. Hopefully that would do the trick. 

 

 

nix

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Jane Menzies

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Jane Menzies says:

Re: Excuses!!

 Hi, I'd go with the above too.  Or again something along the lines that with not just having one rider but potentially three whilst he is young it is not so good for him, however when he is bit older, more mature/established he can have other riders and we'll live until then.  However I've always thought it good manners to ask the owner what you would like me, ie the rider to do and take my instruction/guidance from them, ie whether it is slow work, working on transitions etc, suppling etc.  Bit like a jockey would before a race.  I've usually suggested what I am going to do and asked them if they are happy with it and to tell me if they are not.  Or the other suggestion might be they have lessons, ie once a week with a qualified instructor and they both benefit.  Trotting endlessly round and round an arena is not what it should be.  

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cobon

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cobon says:

Re: Excuses!!

Thanks to everyone for commenting. I appreciate all your comments.

Nix123 and Jane Menzies i really like your thinking! I don't want her to have lessons on him as i want lessons on my horse. I know that comes across as a bit selfish, but i didn't buy him so other's could have lessons on him. And tbh, she comes down here rides and then buggers off without really doing anything else. She has picked up one poo in the 4/5 wks she has been riding him!! Picked his feet out once and never groomed him!!

We have a great excuse ourselves anyway, which is our school is flooded!! lol xx But, if it comes to it, then a watered down excuse is the way to go!! Very apt for this weather too xx

Thanks again xx

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