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Flame Dancer

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Flame Dancer says:

To sell or not to sell.. :(

 Ok guys been faced with the difficult decision as to whether to sell my mare or not.

I bought her at year ago with the hopes of eventing and getting my confidence up, as I had previously bought an eventer who was extremely spooky and a but of a nutcase I wanted something that would mind me and that I'd feel safe on.

I then ended up purchasing a horse who was quiet green however very safe and for once I could hack out on my own!! :) she'd only ever hunted so I took her on with the hopes of developing her flatwork to event her in the future. However after 1year she still doesn't feel like the right horse for me, she's very safe and I can hack to my hearts content but she does get highly strung and forward and is not suited to dressage, but xc is her forte! So do I give up my hopes of eventing or keep her and change plans as she is a pet but I feel like we're holding each other back and a bit in limbo at the moment! :(

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  • Posted 2 years ago (10 May 2012 21:39)
monie23

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monie23 says:

Re: To sell or not to sell.. :(

HIya,

         could you not loan her out? If you aren't happy I think you should find yourself an eventer and try and find her a home she'll be more suited to. You could advertise her and then just go from there.

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  • Posted 2 years ago (11 May 2012 10:38)
Micki

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Micki says:

Re: To sell or not to sell.. :(

You could try and sell her but be warned horses jus aren't selling at the moment. I have my boy for sale as he loves jumping and would make a fantastic BSJA/BE horse and he hasn't sold yet. Lots of people want to loan horses and aren't willing to put there hands in ther pockets and actually buy a horse.

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  • Posted 2 years ago (11 May 2012 12:34)
melxvengeance

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melxvengeance says:

Re: To sell or not to sell.. :(

If you're doubting it then I wouldn't sell. You need to be 110% sure that's what you want to do before putting her up for sale.

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  • Posted 2 years ago (11 May 2012 13:14)
AMLS

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AMLS says:

Re: To sell or not to sell.. :(

I would get some advice from an instructor or experienced eventer before you make a decision as they can look as her and assess her potential without the emotional attachment. Why is she not suitable for dressage, with the right schooling and correct muscling etc any horse can try dressage. Why not have a couple of dressage lessons to boost your confidence in this area and get pointed in the right direction. Any horse can become fresh and forward going once they are fittened and going correctly and starting to feel good about their work, I wouldn't neccessarily take that as a negative aspect to her character as if this energy is channelled she could be wonderful.

 

I would think long and hard about this because you've only had her for a year and selling her on would unsettle both of you, having to get used to a new horse for you and a new home/rider for her is never easy ... Let us know what you decide to do, best wishes.

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  • Posted 2 years ago (11 May 2012 18:51)
Flame Dancer

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Flame Dancer says:

Re: To sell or not to sell.. :(

 Thanks for all your views guys :)

I have been getting lessons twice weekly with her for the year and my instructor who is an experienced eventer has also been schooling her for me. We had a little chat today and decided That I think it's best to accept shes not the one for me and move on. Mentioned I felt I was giving up on her in a way, but my instructor talked a bit more logically stating that we have put a years work into her and I'm still not able to get out and compete and have some fun. Her trot has come along way but her canter is still very unbalanced and forward and she won't accept a contact at all in the canter, fights it and gets very tense, which is also not allowing us to be able to do a round of showjumps without a lot of difficulty. We knew she needed work on the flat but neither of us thought it would be this much of a challenge, my instructor is a 1* event rider and she even finds her extremely difficult. Would love the option of loaning her out but unfortunatly I'd need the funds to buy something else. Think I'm going to sell her as a xc and hunter trial horse as it is where she excels, although with the current  m market I am aware that I will have to let her go for less than I bought her for, but I just want her to go to a 5* he. I think the most difficult part of selling is accepting the fact that it's time to move on. If I could win the lotto I'd keep them all! :)

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  • Posted 2 years ago (12 May 2012 00:18)
Flame Dancer

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Flame Dancer says:

Re: To sell or not to sell.. :(

 Also I have had her teeth and backed checked and had a physio look at her etc and all fine. I was originally thinking about just keeping her as a xc horse if I couldn't event, but her canter is so forward and I am a bit nervy and as I haven't competed alot before I don't think I'd be able to relax and enjoy it, as although she is bombproof she does get very highly strung and strong. I think for my first season eventing next time I would like to buy myself something a little cobbler as although we might not win the speed stakes at least it will get my confidence up! 

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  • Posted 2 years ago (12 May 2012 00:31)
rhapsody

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rhapsody says:

Re: To sell or not to sell.. :(

Without meaning to sound too harsh, you speak as though your confidence isn't very strong - nothing wrong with that, mine isn't either when it comes to certain areas of riding.  As a result, I wouldn't have thought cross country event riding was ideal for a person who is, by your own admission, nervy, not at least until you do have more confidence in yourself.  You might find that most horses become forward going when faced with the prospect of cross country, I know that my own trusty cob would definitelty become very strong with this sort of prospect.

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  • Posted 2 years ago (12 May 2012 00:49)
Flame Dancer

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 I understand where your coming from but I am actually quiet a capable rider with nearly 20years experience and have done plenty of xc before and I do really enjoy it, once I'm in control! I have always struggled with nerves but once I am on a horse I feel safe on I have no problem flying around a xc course! :) it's just my mare is very TB he breeding isn't recorded but I would say she is full TB, and her full force canter around a xc would be a different level to a heavier cob at full speed ahead! Although I do have a soft spot for her and she's a very sweet mare, I don't think we're a great partnership for the long run all aspects in mind of what I would like to do with my horse in the long run, and unfortunately I can't deny the financial facts when I'm paying 100every week on livery and not getting out and about doing what I like best. Shell make a super mare for someone I just have to find the right person..

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  • Posted 2 years ago (12 May 2012 09:42)

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