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ponymadgirl2

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ponymadgirl2 says:

Please help me :(

I realise this isnt the sort of post that usually comes up here, but some of you may have been in the same situation or just have an idea to help me cope.

Gunna sound like a right kid but here goes:

I got my horse 4 months ago and we moved to a nice yard and I met some great friends. We rode together all the time, filmed each other, sleepovers you name it. They had known each other for ages before, but were very inclusive and spending days at the yard was so much fun!

We went on holiday for ages and when i got back i was so excited to see them all again and ride together! The same day i got back they announced that they had rented a yard and were going there, together. Its quite a small yard so its only them, all the friends together i hadnt even been thought of. in fairness the parents organised it, not gunna dwell on that. I was so upset!

No theyve moved and some are rubbing it in my face on purpose, the rest without knowing and its so tough :( im on my own on the yard and all these photos are coming up of them together.

Had my closest friend out of all of them for a sleepover and was saying how hard it would be to keep in touch...she said we'd see each other lots still and i felt reassured until i realised that everyone who is staying at the old yard (younger people who werent really friendss i thought) had all come to the new yard to see it. ive had no invitation at all.

sounds like im a jealous kid, but im not cos the yard being quieter is nice - gives me more chance to concentrate on getting my boy up to shape, im just so upset and missing it all i guess :/

 

Anyone any advice on how to cope?

just an idea of the fun we had :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eyyQT2JxDl0&feature=g-upl

 

They were all very sorry, now ones angry at me and i dont know why and ones blanking me. want to get over it but just dunno how!

Feeling down? Saddle up...

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Rosebudd

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Rosebudd says:

Re: Please help me :(

 i kinda no how you feel, i had to leave my old yard due to moving house, and was on my own, so kind of a different situation, but i had friends like this, we were all on a big yard, it was great..spent days like you and your friends did! 

 

Its such a shame :(  however, with them gone you will be able to concentrate on getting your boy in shape, i always found the more i played about with my friends the more i was ruining my pony ... racing up tracks out hacking (means trouble later on) ... the only other thing i can think of saying is why not invite some of the girls your friends with for a hack, say, meet them at a place then go for a hack.. 

 

if it helps, id only moved up the road from them, and they never wanted to do anything, id gone to a yard on my own, was out hacking on my own one day and around the corner they all come flying at me, laughing (and out of control) its sad, i no how u feel! 

 

usual post but honestly, people have been through it too.. chin up! ! xx 

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jenappaloosapony

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Re: Please help me :(

The only young people at my yard are me + my sister and a 9 year old boy. So we cope!! :) Good luck

JennyMyAppaloosa♥Loveyou

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kevinhiatt

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kevinhiatt says:

Re: Please help me :(

Yes watch who your friends are, unfortunately people are not how they seem, you get this all the time on yards unfortunately, this applies to what ever age you are. Some people are jealous for some reason some times its the type of horse you have etc.

Gypsy Gold does not chink & glitter.It gleams in the sun and neighs in the dark.Tonka & Lara my beautiful horses RIP, Nelson,Chloe & Kitty the cats.

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SuzyA

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SuzyA says:

Re: Please help me :(

Try not to dwell or try and find out what the others are doing.  It's nice that you'll be seeing lots of the girl you're closest with.  No doubt she'll talk about what's going on at the other yard, which may be difficult, but hopefully soon you'll get some new girls at your yard and then you'll start to move on and have fun with your new friends.  Like you said, you've got more time now to concentrate on your boy.  It will get easier, and who knows things may get even better than before

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rhapsody

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rhapsody says:

Re: Please help me :(

I wouldn't bother my shirt with any of them, they don't sound like they're worth it or deserving of your friendship at all.  The best revenge is to live well, i.e. to make a success of yourself and your horse and let them all wonder how you did it without 'em!

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ponymadgirl2

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ponymadgirl2 says:

thanks

Thanks everyone...the weird thing is...i feel so much happier when im at the yard - its so quiet, my boy is calmer and is responding to me more its just when i get home onto facebook i feel sad...i'll live and show them that i can get there with my man :)

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SarahSmith

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SarahSmith says:

Re: Please help me :(

Young girls can be like that, it can only take one girl to start to be mean before the rest join in! Honestly, don't take it to heart as they are not worth your time. This means you'll be able to concentrate more on your riding and in the end, you'll get so much better than them! And you'll meet plenty of friends at any competitions you'll do.!  :)

Sarah :)

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greyandbay

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greyandbay says:

Re: Please help me :(

That's girls for you - they can be so bitchy when they get in a little group.

Take deep breaths and forget them - concentrate on your horse, I'm sure he'll appreciate you !!

Hope things get better from now on xx

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jenhavocmanny

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Re: Please help me :(

Not nice when people you think are friends do things like that to you.

I think we've all been there a few times.

 

Chin up, it's not worth dwelling on, give a horse a hug and everthing feels much better, I say

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ponymadgirl2

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ponymadgirl2 says:

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thank you everyone, really helps, just need to forget about it i guess, theyre part in my life is over, there will be others

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