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wagonsroll

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wagonsroll says:

Re: Loss of confidence and when do you know its time to quit?

Yes that's fantastic I'm so glad its all looking good! They sound lovely and i'm sure you'll be much easier here! xx

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Stormbeauty

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Stormbeauty says:

Re: Loss of confidence and when do you know its time to quit?

am glad you have made the right choice reading above some ppl can ruin your confidence without you realising. hope it all works out well for you :)

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appygal

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appygal says:

Re: Loss of confidence and when do you know its time to quit?

She has no sympathy for you, it is time to change. If you tell your instructor you are struggling, then they should accept that, especially if you have M.E! If she can't help you, and you are not coming back from your lessons enthuastic and happy, wanting to come back, then you need to change schools.

Explain to your new instructor what you want, and maybe watch a few lessons before you start the school.

Hope this helped. x

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Fi & Smartass

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Re: Loss of confidence and when do you know its time to quit?

 Sounds like you've made the right decision there! The new place sounds fab and very accomodating. fingers crossed you find their lessons just as good as you found the visit to your yard. The actions of your original instrutor were disgusting, knowing you have a medical condition she should have listened to you when you said you weren't coping (even if you didn't have medical problems she should STILL have listened as at the end of the day she is being paid to look after you and keep you feeling happy and secure at all times NOT have a bit of time off to take her horse for a ride!). As you said when it became clear you were going to be late she should have chosen a shorter route back if possible or rang to say she'd be late back. I know running late can be stressful but if she's the boss then she's got nobody to get into trouble with about it. Fingers crossed the new place works out!

Correction does much for the horse, but encouragement does more - Unknown

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janice160

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janice160 says:

Re: Loss of confidence and when do you know its time to quit?

You sound as if you're now sorted.  Just remember nobody should treat you like this person did.  You are paying a professional who should act responsibly and her first priority should be your safety and enjoyment.   Don't put up with anything else.  Good luck for the futre and KEEP RIDING!!

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irb13

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irb13 says:

Re: Loss of confidence and when do you know its time to quit?

I am sorted and the new place is working out a treat. The yard manager there has suggested doing a dressage test this spring as I'm loving doing the practice drills that we do. I'm really looking forward to it.

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SarahR123

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SarahR123 says:

Re: Loss of confidence and when do you know its time to quit?

That's excellent news!  So pleased for you that you've found somewhere where the customer is considered!  Here's to a happy 2012 riding and increasing your confidence!

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polothepony

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polothepony says:

Re: Loss of confidence and when do you know its time to quit?

Are there other instructors there that you could possibly switch to? Your instructor might just work at the time you happen to ride. If so, then maybe you just ask to  swap to another time. You don't have to tell them why, just say that your work hours have changed or something. If this isn't possible, then I think you should consider moving. I know you might not want to, but you can't ride if you're unhappy! Horse-riding is supposed to be a fun activity, not a chore!

You never know, there could be a super-nice yard just around the corner that you didn't even know about!

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irb13

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irb13 says:

Re: Loss of confidence and when do you know its time to quit?

 I switched schools after the bad hack. The problem with the instructor at the old school was that they were one of the owners. It wouldn't have been possible to switch to another instructor as there was only one other one at the weekend and that was intermittent switching between the other owner and someone else.

Plus given my M.E. and how I am during the week its better for me and horses to ride on a weekend. I've been riding at my new school since November and getting on heaps better. I've had a couple of short bursts of canter but its some thing I can work with out at the moment. What I've gone on to achieve in my lessons just working with walk and rising trot has led me to learn more about myself and develop my abilities and knowledge of riding. I'm a lot lot happier and much more settled. I've had a few spooks but I've coped with them. The bin bag with Amber has to have been the best. She started turning a way and I just coaxed her, put my legs on and talked her round past the bag. 

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soniadevereux

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Re: Loss of confidence and when do you know its time to quit?

i am so pleased you are getting on better now.  let us know how you get on with the dressage test too. You just needed to find the instructor that suited you better. well done. xx

Horses - if God made anything more beautiful, he kept it for himself. ~Author Unknown

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