hi when i jump my horse he normally allways clears it but he went through a stage of refusing every single jump but has now got better and is back to his normal self of clearing the with room to spare but now whenever i face a jump i think hes going to refuse it again and i just imagin falling off over the jump. and people say to think about getting over but i just can't stop thinking about it! when i went to a cross country open day i literally only went over trotting pole size jumps the whole time, but when i went with friends i went over the big and hard combinations like jumping up and down steps and jumping out of water and into water. i really don't know why but i am allot more cofident with friends. can anyone tell me why and help me get falling off out of my head!!!