Re: Anything ever made you lose your confidence?
Some of these are bone chilling guys!
I am generally quite confident, my worst thing is self critism made worse by an old y/o.
Think steryotypical horse woman, blonde, busty , loud! We moved Silver up to her yard about half a year after getting him, she had a school and lovely moor hacking. She started to give me lessons and gennerally nothing was ever good enough, when i looked back at what me and silver achieved it was amazing, but never ever perfect enough for her, we were jumping around a metre fifteen at home, and doing open 15hh workers at a national level, P.U.K and champs. These were massive tracks, Silver has always been a tricky lad and I was only 13 so really looking back we were doing well. getting placed etc.
On day we went to a show, it was a HOYs quailfer well up to height and spreads of 1.30m so really on a 15hh massive, bless silver's heart (he really is a horse in a million) we jumped round it only knocking the back bar of a skinny.He jumped out of his skin and I remember landing of the last fence thinking how we'd done it, it was such an acheivment, all my friends were cheering because even though i'd knocked one we were only one of only 4 horses who got round out of 35!!! We didn't qualify but just getting round.
my instructor took me to one side as i came out and basically made me out to be an embarrasment, a terrible rider and swore at me etc, saying i'd wasted her time, i was wasting a talented horse etc ect.
Haven't been able to compete since, a few local level things, its silly i'm aware that i'm being overly self critical, but i'm just so nervous and scared of showing myself/the horse up. I love my hacking, local dressage but can't ever see myself competing at a high level again, its too never wracking and its all because of how she made feel in those moments after, for knocking one pole.
Needless to say off that yard and have a lovely instructor now, Silver is retired and I can't ever thank that horse enough for what he did for me in the years after.