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kilkennylad

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kilkennylad says:

How can NLP increase your confidence in the saddle?

If anyone has ever wondered what NLP is and how it can help increase your confidence as a rider, then this may be of interest to you. 

When something traumatic happens to us, like a bad fall, this creates an emotional imprint in our minds. Our brain is then constantly on alert for situations that may be similar, or cause similar hurt/pain to the original event, so that it can create the same emotional response (fear or anxiety, etc), and therefore behaviours to avoid such situations - it tries to protect us (sometimes a good thing, sometimes not so good, if it holds us back). If we have several events that hurt or injure us, then our brains start to create a belief about ourself or a particular type of situation, eg, I'm can't do flying changes, or I'm a terrible rider, or I can't hack out because I can't control my horse. These beliefs grow stronger every time we are faced with a perceived similar situation. 

NLP uses powerful, proven tools and techniques to clear the emotions from past traumatic events, freeing us up from the emotional baggage that holds us back. It also helps us to eliminate limiting beliefs we hold about ourselves, enabling us to focus on the positives - creating positive thoughts, emotions and beliefs and ultimately actions. 

For my whole life I was a nervous rider. I loved riding and had weekly lessons with a variety of trainers, yet nothing could help me overcome the fear that was deep inside of me every time I rode (due to several bad experiences as a child). I had to steel myself if I wanted to go out hacking. I only felt safe in the indoor school, and my riding world had shrunk to a series of 'safe' schooling exercises - not much fun after a few years! I did a few dressage tests at the yard where my horse was stabled, but even these made me anxious. Yet I wouldn't give up riding. 

It wasn't until I undertook my own training as an NLP Master Practitioner, Trainer and Psychotherapist (combined with finding a new trainer, Frances) that I was finally able to break free from the riding school and start doing all the things I'd dreamed of doing as a child: riding x-country, galloping along a beach, cantering across open fields and exploring the local countryside for hours on end. I can't tell you the sheer joy and exhilaration I felt as I cleared those first ever x-country jumps. OK I may not have been in the best jumping position and I may have got stuck mid-way on the bank coming out of the ditch (having to very inelegantly slide off my bewildered horse), but it was pure magic getting out of the school, doing all the things I'd longed to do for years and years. I'm living proof that NLP really can increase your confidence in the saddle.   Feel free to get in touch if you want any more info.

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JaffaCakes

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JaffaCakes says:

Re: How can NLP increase your confidence in the saddle?

woah... why did it post twice?!

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kilkennylad

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kilkennylad says:

Re: How can NLP increase your confidence in the saddle?

 You're more than welcome JaffaCakes.  If you want to follow us on Facebook, here's the link.  We're quite new on FB but will be posting lots of tips and hints soon.  The link is: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Inspirational-Riding-Solutions/178419085516450

Also, you can find more details of our workshops for nervous riders at: www.inspirationallifesolutions.com and look under the events page, where you'll be able to download a brochure with full details.

Good luck.  Vicky xx

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kilkennylad

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kilkennylad says:

Re: How can NLP increase your confidence in the saddle?

 To those people who have got in touch privately, apologies for any confusion.  You do not need to own a horse, nor bring a horse to the workshops.  Horses will be provided for all ground and ridden work.  However, the option is there if you want to bring your own horse.

I hope that clarifies things and once again, apologies for any confusion.

Vicky

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kilkennylad

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kilkennylad says:

How can NLP increase your confidence in the saddle?

 Check out The Confident Rider Series of workshop at www.InspirationalRidingSolutions.com if you're a nervous rider.  The workshops combine NLP, ground work, ridden work, posture work, horsemanship and lots more.

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kilkennylad

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kilkennylad says:

Re: How can NLP increase your confidence in the saddle?

 If anyone is in the Ashford, Kent area, then check out our short evening workshop called 'Setting Boundaries Keeps You Safe'.  It's about the difference between horse and human psychology and how unclear boundaries, or a lack of boundaries creates confusion in your horse, which could be potentially dangerous.  This is particularly useful for anyone who has an ill-mannered or bolshy horse who likes to take control of the relationship.

Find out more at: www.InspirationalRidingSolutions.com/events.html or follow us on Facebook and keep up to date with our latest offers, tips and news (www.Facebook.com/InspirationalRidingSolutions

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