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3MoodyMaresMum

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Getting over accident

Had a bit of a mishap last week, not my mares fault, just a set of circumsances that put me in A&E having been kicked in the face by her front foot. I was putting her out, she can be lively especially if something new is on the yard, be it a piece of kit a wheelbarrow whatever, anyway she was flying around this new scary object, I was tired and stupidly couldn't be bothered to go to the tack room and get her head collar so had her in the Dually. Once being silly the pressure came on as she pulled, this shocked her so she started snorting which set my other 2 off in the field! They galloped about, she got more wound up then the wind blew the gate shut!

Stupidly even though she was on her toes threatening to rear I walked in front of her to open the gate, she shot through the gateway again the pressure of Dually got her so she spun round reared and boxed out kicking me in the face.  I have 12 stitches by my eye, the wound went into the muscle and we won't know for months whether the nerve damage is permanent in that side of my face!

The following day I didn't put them out for other reasons, but the next day I was almost physically ill by the time I had walked them all out individually to the field. I am trying to convince myself it is all OK and a freak accident, but a week later I am really struggling with leading them in and out. I don't have any help, as my horses are at home. Once they are in the stable or the field I am absolutely fine around them, it is just the leading bit that is causing a problem!  Well I keep a bit of a distance because I don't want to get the stitches knocked!!

I have spent the last hour this morning trying to get up the courage to put them out, they are all wound up because of the wind, men working on the road outside the yard laying new tarmac so I gave up and have come in here to ask you guys if something similar has happened to you and how you dealt with it.

I have tried telling myself it was an accident, and I know how lucky I am - had enough Doctors telling me at the hospital!  It could have all been worse, I could have lost my eye as the blow was only a few mm from it, I could have been killed but still I have the 50 yard walk from yard to field and the sheer terror of it. She is only allowed out for a few hours a day because of her Cushing's and Laminitis last winter otherwise I would probably chuck them out 24/7!

So any ideas? Please?

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soniadevereux

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Re: Getting over accident

Firstly, so sorry to hear about your accident, and glad that you are recovering well from it. Have you got an MP4 or something similar. Put some easy sing along songs on it and when leading put it them out. Also being particulary obvious, put a your hat on ( when you can get it on) to lead them out. Take your time and good luck. xxxx

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WhiteHorseBadger

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Re: Getting over accident

Oh my gosh you poor thing, I can only imagine how you must be feeling.  Your safety does come first though and if you are still understandably feeling nervous around the horses after your accident (most people would be feeling this way as well I am sure) then you need to see if you can find some help somehow.  Remember as well the horses may be confused as to why you are acting a little nervous around them, if they are not used to you being like this.  Are they maybe using this to their advantage and having a little bit of fun?

Although you are at home, do you have any experienced friends that you could ask to help you out for a little while until the shock of what has happened sinks in a bit more?  If you do not have any friends that are able tp help you out, maybe call some local tack shops and ask if they have any notices for riders looking for some extra money, maybe for a few weeks it could be worth paying someone to come and help you out.  Sometimes just physically having someone there with you is enough to make you feel comfortable handling the horses etc yourself, they are always there if you start to feel unable to carry on.  Please do not feel at all embarrassed in any way about asking for help.  You have had a terrible shock and even if your horses were the most laid back in the world, I think most people would still be feeling very wary. 

Do not rush yourself either, I do think these things take time emotionally to get over.  Your are also physically hurting from the accident, which will be making you feel worse as well I imagine.  If you can, try to stop yourself thinking about the 'what if's'.  I think it is natural for us to think about how much worse things could have been, however that normally only makes us feel worse, just the thought of it all. 

Good luck and remember do not rush yourself.  Maybe speak with your Dr as well and see if he can recommend anything to maybe help calm your nerves over the next little while.  I know a few friends use Rescue Remedy when going to competitions etc to help calm them down. 

Keep us posted on how you get on

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3MoodyMaresMum

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Re: Getting over accident

Thanks Guys.

I did have a girl come in a few days a week to help out, sadly she quit day after my accident!  My friends have been wonderful, but they all say I am stubborn in trying to just get on with it!

Anyway, had a few good days, had a good talking to myself and reminded myself that this was an accident, have tried to be more myself around the horses which has helped and have even put the other 2 out without any problems - I have had to ask myself am I keeping them in because of the me or for them. So took the bull by the horns and they have been out every day, I even put my kick boxer out today, she was excited and on her toes but she waited until I had taken off her head collar before letting rip across the 'play pen' rearing and bucking - I can handle that behaviour!!

I am tending to make sure someone is around somewhere when I put them in or out as a just in case, but your right it probably gives me more confidence.

I think everyone is right once the stitches are out and I am not worried about getting bumped or knocked things will gradually go back to normal - tomorrow hopefully some of the stitches are coming out.  At least the black eye has more or less gone now!!

Well, it was certainly an experience I wouldn't want to repeat and my beautiful mare I think was so upset by it all, she knew she'd done it and has been so very sweet, not that I was ever angry with her, I did have a laugh yesterday with the Farrier and her yesterday saying she will now always be engraved on my skin!

Funny really, she is the one horse I trusted 100% on the ground, get on her back and I never trusted her at all, every injury I have had from her was ridden!  But these things happen and we learn a valuable lesson.

Thanks for help.

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